Comments on: “He sounds like he’s missing something or someone that he knows he can’t have now and if he isn’t I certainly am.” http://annaschwind.com/2007/04/23/he-sounds-like-hes-missing-something-or-someone-that-he-knows-he-cant-have-now-and-if-he-isnt-i-certainly-am/ Anna Schwind's blog Tue, 24 May 2011 00:23:08 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.6 hourly 1 By: Atlee Breland http://annaschwind.com/2007/04/23/he-sounds-like-hes-missing-something-or-someone-that-he-knows-he-cant-have-now-and-if-he-isnt-i-certainly-am/comment-page-1/#comment-329 Atlee Breland Sun, 13 May 2007 23:01:47 +0000 http://annaschwind.com/?p=499#comment-329 I don't think I ever mentioned it, but at the time of Simone's death, Greg and I had just started thinking about trying to have a baby. I never had any losses, and I don't pretend to empathize, but I did learn a thing or two about failures, and war with one's body, along the way. By the end of it all, I didn't know anymore if I even wanted a baby or if I just wanted to get pregnant because I couldn't. I didn't stop wondering until I actually had the babies, when the point became completely moot. <br /> <br /> It's a lot easier to adapt to a choice made than it is to make one, but living in indecision is worst of all. I hope you find the right direction in good time.<br /> <br /> I think about you and Simone often, especially since my own babies were born last year, and I cry every time you write about her. I'm glad to see you could write to her on her birthday, this year, and I hope Mother's Day isn't too sad for you. I don't see how it couldn't be, a little bit, but I hope there is a healthy dose of happiness mixed in. I don’t think I ever mentioned it, but at the time of Simone’s death, Greg and I had just started thinking about trying to have a baby. I never had any losses, and I don’t pretend to empathize, but I did learn a thing or two about failures, and war with one’s body, along the way. By the end of it all, I didn’t know anymore if I even wanted a baby or if I just wanted to get pregnant because I couldn’t. I didn’t stop wondering until I actually had the babies, when the point became completely moot.

It’s a lot easier to adapt to a choice made than it is to make one, but living in indecision is worst of all. I hope you find the right direction in good time.

I think about you and Simone often, especially since my own babies were born last year, and I cry every time you write about her. I’m glad to see you could write to her on her birthday, this year, and I hope Mother’s Day isn’t too sad for you. I don’t see how it couldn’t be, a little bit, but I hope there is a healthy dose of happiness mixed in.

]]> By: christi http://annaschwind.com/2007/04/23/he-sounds-like-hes-missing-something-or-someone-that-he-knows-he-cant-have-now-and-if-he-isnt-i-certainly-am/comment-page-1/#comment-328 christi Mon, 23 Apr 2007 16:04:55 +0000 http://annaschwind.com/?p=499#comment-328 I have been thinking of all of you today. Anna, you and Kurt amaze me almost daily with your strength. Sometimes, you may not realize how much Simone's sweet little life affected people, but I think of her often, even though I never met her in this life. There is a picture you took of Kurt holding Simone, and he and Sophia are looking up at the sky (or something exciting on the ceiling), and I have to tell you, it makes me smile every time I see that picture in my mind. It is beautiful. Simone is beautiful. Happy Birthday Simone. We are wishing your Mom, Dad, and big sister peace today. I have been thinking of all of you today. Anna, you and Kurt amaze me almost daily with your strength. Sometimes, you may not realize how much Simone’s sweet little life affected people, but I think of her often, even though I never met her in this life. There is a picture you took of Kurt holding Simone, and he and Sophia are looking up at the sky (or something exciting on the ceiling), and I have to tell you, it makes me smile every time I see that picture in my mind. It is beautiful. Simone is beautiful. Happy Birthday Simone. We are wishing your Mom, Dad, and big sister peace today.

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